IT IS ESSENTIAL TO HAVE SOME ONE HELP YOU MEASURE. I CANNOT MAKE SIZE RECOMMENDATIONS FOR DEACON STOLES.
You do not need to be wearing a stole to measure. The stole is pictured to demonstrate how the stole should fit. It would be a good idea to wear your robe, if you have one.
To measure for a the sash of the deacon's stole, place a safety pin at the right side hip spot in both the front and the back. Measure from the safety pin on the front hip, around the left shoulder to the point where you have safety pinned in the back.
The top of the hip is between the true waist (1 inch above the navel) and true hip (the place where the top of your leg bends).
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